Toddler Development
Developmentally-Appropriate Aggression
Biting:
Toddler Biting: Finding the Right Response
- “Trying your best to understand the underlying cause of a toddler’s biting will help you develop an effective response. Children bite in order to cope with a challenge or fulfull a need.”
- “Shaming and harsh punishment do not reduce biting.”
- Why do toddlers bite?
- What can I do to prevent biting?
- What do I do when my toddler bites?
- Strategies to respond based on your child’s development
- When to seek help
The website “Zero to Three” says here that “Trying your best to understand the underlying cause of a toddler’s biting will help you develop an effective response. Children bite in order to cope with a challenge or fulfull a need.” They then go on to explain some reasons as to why toddlers might bite, how to prevent biting, what to do when your toddler bites, and strategies to respond beyond shame/punishment according to the child’s development. This is a great resource because it really goes into detail about specific situations, helpful examples, steps to take, and some scripts to try out.
Biting:
Understanding and Responding to Children Who Bite
This site organizes its information about biting based on some common questions:
- Why do children bite?
- What can families do to prevent biting?
- How should I respond when my child bites?
- What if biting becomes a habit for my child?
- What strategies can I use to help my child overcome a habit of biting?
- What strategies are not helpful?
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This article explores the meaning behind challenging behavior in toddlers and how parents and caregivers can set age-appropriate limits.” It focuses on how adults can help toddlers practice self-control and shows some examples of moments when kids are struggling with emotional coping vs. learning to manage strong feelings.
“Help! How do I respond to my toddler’s aggression and tantrums?”
Toddlers and Challenging Behavior: Why They Do It and How to Respond
- Learning to hangle challenging behavior in toddlers
- Struggling with emotional coping
- Learning to manage strong feelings
- Practicing self control
- Ideas
- Talk about feelings and how to cope
- Offer your child ideas for how to manage strong emotions
- Empathize with your child
- Give your child a visual aid to make waiting easier
- Let your child make choices appropriate to her age
- Look for ways to help your child “practice” self-control
- Ideas
Tantrums, Defiance, Aggression – Oh My!
- Empathy and compassion
- Validating emotions
- Calm presence
- “Understanding, guidance, and patience”
This is a link to a video that gives some advice and strategies on handling tantrums, defiance, and aggression. They suggest using an empathetic and compassionate framework of “understanding, guidance, and patience” when faced with this difficult moments.